Dr Nikki Goldstein

Smart, educated and honest, Dr Nikki is Australia’s

most in demand sexologist, educating about

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Jan
30

2015
Lets get real about body image

Fact: all women, no matter what shape or size, at some point, will suffer from bad body image. We have attempted to become a society that supports women and their curves, however, this “love yourself” message has become so politically correct, that I question whether or not it carries any meaning. Or is just like Miss Universe wishing for world peace? Is it another way conformity and social norms are taking over? It’s similar to the hashtag phenomenon. It’s one thing to pop a hashtag in front of a comment and pass it around the world for everyone to join in on (and I often question if sharing these messages is meaningful, or if it is a case of jumping on the bandwagon), but it’s another thing to remove our fingers from our Twitter accounts and our eyes from our smartphones and do something about the issues we seemingly care…

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Jan
22

2015
A Dating Dilemma – To have sex on the first date?

When it comes to dating, there is one question we will never find a set-in-stone answer to: when is the right time to have sex with a new partner? For this one, I’m very much going to reflect on my own personal experiences as a single, dating female. Recently, I found myself justifying my reasons not to rush into sex while dating a so-called “gentleman” who, on multiple occasions, struggled with the fact I had not yet slept with him. For the record, we had been on two dates. It’s not that I’m a prude, very much the opposite. But when on the second date, someone is begging like a child to have sex with you, and arguing a few days later about it, continued by yet more auguring on the third date over the prospect of again not getting laid that night, is it really an issue of waiting…

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Jan
15

2015
Sexual Content: What is it and where do we draw the line?

Recently, singer Sia’s music video for her song ‘Elastic Heart’, which features Shia LaBeouf and young Dance Moms’ star Maddie Ziegler, in flesh-coloured, dirt-stained outfits dancing artistically in a cage, has come under criticism for having paedophilic connotations. If you’ve not watched the video, I suggest you do before you read any further. The video is intended to represent Sia fighting with versions of herself, and I personally loved it. I think it is a great artistic representation of emotion, but it’s this quick labelling of the work as paedophilic content that bothers me. Before I go any further, in no way do I want to downplay the importance of indentifying material that is inappropriate or harmful, but I do fear our quick labelling of the ‘P-word’ is, itself, not only confusing but potentially harmful to our future analyses of sexual and non-sexual content. How can we understand what is…

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Sep
30

2013
Sexual Pleasure For Sale In Supermarkets

Yesterday in the Sun Herald, an article I had been waiting for appeared, but it shocked me with its new and quite controversial angle. I was expecting to find a review about the new Durex pleasure vibes being stocked in supermarkets and instead was greeted with an article title, “ Sex toys canned: woolies bites the bullet and dumps vibrators” What?   I was quoted in this article and do support Durex’s move to put these products into supermarkets, however I do agree that it is controversial and potentially risky.  What I don’t agree with is Woolworths being threaten with a boycott from a Christian group who are presenting information and reasoning that has flaws.     Roslyn Phillips, research officer with Christian advocacy group, Family Voice Australia (the same group that is against gay marriage, abortion and believes sex is only for a husband and wife) stated, “society is…

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