Dr Nikki Goldstein

Smart, educated and honest, Dr Nikki is Australia’s

most in demand sexologist, educating about

love, sex, relationships and dating

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Jul
23

2015
Why Should Single Women Be Happy That Ashley Madison Exists?

The Ashley Madison hacking scandal (with users details and sexual fantasies threatened to be exposed) has been all over the media lately. Some people are fearful of what information might come from this and others believe karma for those cheating on their partners. But the discussions keep coming – why do people cheat and is this site a good idea? The more alarming information is that in Australia, the website is said to have over 900 000 users (a measurement from two years prior). This, in my opinion is our best indication of rates of infidelity or the desires of Aussies to be unfaithful. When I see other studies attempting to predict how many people are having an affair, I question the validity and the percentage of false reporting by these participants. Who would admit to having an affair if they didn’t have to? Not all of the users on…

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Apr
01

2015
The Rise of Sex Content. A liberal or smutty move?

I was recently asked where I thought, as a society, we were positioned when it came to sexual liberation. I can never give a simple response to that question. One might browse our current media, such as films and Instagram accounts, and conclude that we are rather liberal. But to me, when it comes to sex, it seems that what would appear as sexual liberation is, in fact, tipping the scales towards harmful smut. The Fifty Shades effect is not just one where rope sales and requests for bondage run high. Just like with the book and the media coverage that followed, the release of the movie has provided a reminder of just how well sex sells and how appealing it seems. It didn’t even need to be an Oscar-winning film, simply boasting 20 minutes of sex was enough to send opening ticket sales sky high. There is also a…

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Mar
20

2015
Would you open up your marriage to save it?

“Would you open up your marriage for a year to save it?” You may have heard this question being asked in the media lately. The quandary is trending thanks to author Robin Rinaldi’s new book The Wild Oats Project, which explores how she opened up her marriage in a bid to fight sexual boredom. Rinaldi’s plan was hatched after her husband of 17 years underwent a vasectomy. “I refuse to go to my grave with no children and only four lovers,” she said, “If I can’t have one, I must have the other.” The rules were set: they were not to sleep with mutual friends, get into serious relationships, or have unprotected sex. The pair lived apart during the week and on the weekends Rinaldi would return home. Seems simple enough, doesn’t it? The arrangement didn’t save their marriage. Instead, Rinaldi fell in love with one of her lovers. But…

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Mar
12

2015
Maybe we should just worry about being awesome

There is so much pressure on women today to have it all – and to look good while having it. First, it’s finding the perfect career, then, it’s juggling that career while hunting down a husband. And then, if you want to have children and stay in the working world, the golden triangle becomes your goal: career, wife, mother. How exhausting. There’s little wonder that women around the world are rolling over with headaches moaning, “not tonight, Honey”. (I just want to add that it’s equally hard for women who become mums and choose not to re-enter the workforce). Once, a man who cheated on his wife told me that while she was a great business partner, wife and mother, he wasn’t getting enough sex and so he had to look elsewhere. Really? As much as there is an abundance of support for women today – and this situation maybe…

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