Dr Nikki Goldstein

Smart, educated and honest, Dr Nikki is Australia’s

most in demand sexologist, educating about

love, sex, relationships and dating

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Apr
01

2015
The Rise of Sex Content. A liberal or smutty move?

I was recently asked where I thought, as a society, we were positioned when it came to sexual liberation. I can never give a simple response to that question. One might browse our current media, such as films and Instagram accounts, and conclude that we are rather liberal. But to me, when it comes to sex, it seems that what would appear as sexual liberation is, in fact, tipping the scales towards harmful smut. The Fifty Shades effect is not just one where rope sales and requests for bondage run high. Just like with the book and the media coverage that followed, the release of the movie has provided a reminder of just how well sex sells and how appealing it seems. It didn’t even need to be an Oscar-winning film, simply boasting 20 minutes of sex was enough to send opening ticket sales sky high. There is also a…

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Mar
20

2015
Would you open up your marriage to save it?

“Would you open up your marriage for a year to save it?” You may have heard this question being asked in the media lately. The quandary is trending thanks to author Robin Rinaldi’s new book The Wild Oats Project, which explores how she opened up her marriage in a bid to fight sexual boredom. Rinaldi’s plan was hatched after her husband of 17 years underwent a vasectomy. “I refuse to go to my grave with no children and only four lovers,” she said, “If I can’t have one, I must have the other.” The rules were set: they were not to sleep with mutual friends, get into serious relationships, or have unprotected sex. The pair lived apart during the week and on the weekends Rinaldi would return home. Seems simple enough, doesn’t it? The arrangement didn’t save their marriage. Instead, Rinaldi fell in love with one of her lovers. But…

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Mar
12

2015
Maybe we should just worry about being awesome

There is so much pressure on women today to have it all – and to look good while having it. First, it’s finding the perfect career, then, it’s juggling that career while hunting down a husband. And then, if you want to have children and stay in the working world, the golden triangle becomes your goal: career, wife, mother. How exhausting. There’s little wonder that women around the world are rolling over with headaches moaning, “not tonight, Honey”. (I just want to add that it’s equally hard for women who become mums and choose not to re-enter the workforce). Once, a man who cheated on his wife told me that while she was a great business partner, wife and mother, he wasn’t getting enough sex and so he had to look elsewhere. Really? As much as there is an abundance of support for women today – and this situation maybe…

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Mar
05

2015
The Modern Age of Swipe Dating

I have a friend, Mike, who joined Tinder. Now, there’s nothing new in that. Mike is a sophisticated, well-educated and cultured man. Now, there is something new! But the biggest difference with Mike (AKA Michael Jarosky) is that he decided to date as many women as possible, and then write all his experiences down in the form of an educational book on dating in the modern era. The result is Swipe: The Game Has Changed. I don’t normally write book reviews and I wouldn’t say this necessarily is a book review, but before I left for my trip to the US, I was desperate to get my hands on a copy of Mike’s book. True to my profession, I am always intrigued by what others get up to in the world of dating, relationships, and sex. And I also knew some saucy details would be waiting inside the pages. (Yes,…

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